In the Off Chance I Get a DeLorean with a Flux Capacitor

There are a lot of times in life when I wish I could go back and tell my younger self sweet tidbits of insight that I know now. Everything from coveted advice about boys, relationships and sex, to simple things like the trick to peeling a hard boiled egg in one crack. The first part would have saved a multitude heartache and the second would have saved a multitude of eggs! That being said, I decided to compile some things I have learned about life this far, in the off-chance that I can get my hands on a DeLorean with a flux capacitor.

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Don’t Try To Change People. I am sure you can think of at least three people in your life that you would love nothing more than to change. If you don’t have a list of at least three, come talk to me and I will sell you on a few of mine. Funny thing about being human is that we can’t make anyone change… The flip side of that is, if you are anything like me, the moment someone tries to make you change, you dig your heels in regardless of if you know a change in behavior may be the best thing for you. The most significant thing you can do for a person that you want to change is love them where they are. Love them in the space they are in. Love them regardless if you like their choices or even agree with them. Don’t try changing people, love them instead without condition.

Which leads me to my next bit of widsom…

People Love You With The Amount of Love They Are Capable Of Giving. We each have different capacities in which we are capable of loving. Just because a person’s love doesn’t fill you to the brink of overflowing doesn’t mean they aren’t loving you with all they have. It doesn’t mean they don’t care about you. It doesn’t mean they don’t value you. It doesn’t mean they don’t think about you or want the best for your life or any of the things we can make up. It simply means they love in a different capacity than you do. Some of us are 10-gallon people and that is a big and beautiful thing. In the space of our 10-gallon hearts, accept the love of everyone as a beautiful gift.

Incase all of the love doesn’t work out, it’s important to remember…

Forgive Often. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things you will ever do. Sometimes it’s forgiving another person and sometimes it’s forgiving yourself (ouch, yes, I know.) Forgiveness is a choice that sets us free from hurt, bitterness and anger. Forgiving doesn’t erase anything that happened but it does clear a space for healing. Forgiveness doesn’t always feel good but it’s the things in life that sometimes feel the worst that propel us higher. It is when we truly forgive we are truly set free.

Give things a little time, because…

Time Heals Everything. Everytime I hear it I can’t help but silently roll my eyes at the amount of cliche it holds… Until I process the depth of the truth that it also holds. Time really does heal everything. It doesn’t change situations or outcomes or consequences but it makes the sting a little less painful. It doesn’t take away the guilt or shame but it subdues it enough to process it and work through it. In a moment things happen that shake the foundations of your life into shambles and in time the emotion takes a breath and exhales and the true healing begins. Time, in it’s own time, heals everything, and it is beautiful.

While time is passing, forever and always…

Be Thankful In Everything, For Everything. Sometimes life sucks. Sometimes people totally suck. Sometimes situations completely suck. Regardless of all of that, have a thankful heart. Find something to be thankful for in the situations that you face- even in the ones that cause you the most pain. There isn’t a thing on this Earth that happens that isn’t turned around for good. In the gratitude, we are able to keep hope alive and to focus the things in life that are bigger than ourselves and our circumstances. Show gratitude regardless of anything else.

Now if only I could find that DeLorean with a working flux capacitor I would be all set

CheersDez cursiveslope

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